I love when my partner texts to say good morning when he wakes up. I've noticed he checks in on social media and posts there before he texts me in the morning. It annoys me that social media gets his attention before I do. When I've made comments about it it's started a fight. I really want him thinking of me first when he wakes up. What should I do?
Hmm… so you want control over his brain, hey? That one’s a toughie. We live in a world where people look at their phone literally one minute after waking up – mostly because it’s beside them all night.
It’s not concerning he looks at social media right when he wakes up (because pretty much everyone does) but it’s a little odd that you track that and, well, stalk his actions online.
Are you getting the “good morning” message? You are? OK, great. Did you put a stipulation that it must be first before he does anything else in the day? I certainly hope not.
If you’re not getting anything from him, then tell him you like when you hear from him when you wake up. If you come at him swinging and making accusations like he’s doing something wrong because it’s not the way you want it done, I suspect he’s doing the opposite of what you demand. Do you blame him?
Is he required to contact you before he takes a shit or is a bathroom run OK first? Can he sit up in bed before contacting you? Is that allowed? Wow. Ease up on the guy.
You equate logging into social media as not “thinking of you first.” That’s not even the same thing. He can think about you without contacting you.
This reminds me of those teenage relationships when the needy people, thinking they’re being flirty, say, “How much do you think about me? Are you thinking about me now? Did you think about today? What did you think about?” Ick. Gross. Get the pest repellent. It’s not flirty, it’s not cute, it’s not sweet. It’s insecure. It’s clingy. It’s needy. Stop it.