My partner wants to have sex in public in the hopes of getting caught. It's too risky for me but should I do it anyway?
I know just the place!
This one is tough because you’re asking me about potential illegal activity. If I tell you to go downtown downtown, well, I’m saying to break the law and that comes back as all sorts of employment trouble for me. Now that I’ve put out that disclaimer, let’s deal in hypotheticals without me telling you to do anything.
This might be a question of the fantasy. There are plenty of known “cruising” spaces that are frequented by people hoping for the same kind of encounter as your partner. Chances are your partner knows where and when and is just waiting for your agreement and subsequent participation.
There likely are “safe zones” such as bathhouses or other private places that have public spaces. It’s a pretty sure thing to be “caught” there, so perhaps the fantasy of spontaneously being “caught” is ruined but it sounds like an audience, nonetheless, would suffice.
Your hesitation appears to be about the risk factor and not necessarily the idea of being watched. If you’re open to being watched – again, noting you used the word “caught” – then why not give a show in a designated “safe zone” with other consenting adults?
Am I saying to bend over in a playground in the middle of the day? No. Am I saying to find a treed area for some bush fun on a family beach? No. But, if it’s a nude beach in a country that won’t get you arrested for such behavior, then why not?
Time and place. Time and place.